Monday, July 31, 2017

Monday, Monday

Monday

Another difficult day.  I'm trying.

I had a lunch date with a friend of Richard's - someone who's been a special friend of his since they were in school back in "the day" (let's call her Tammy).  She is dear and sweet and someone I've cared about for years.

I wanted to go - to see her - talk with her - to remind her how much she's loved.   My thoughts are scattered today - I'm having a hard time putting thoughts in order.  Today I'm not able to put the numbers 1 through 10 in order.


I went anyway.  She is kind and compassionate and expects nothing from me, but to be there.  "I can do this," I reasoned..  Our time together was good.  We're going to do it again soon.  I hope I'll be at least a little better next time.

Made it home for a half hour to regroup and get ready to take my car in for a 30,000 mile service appointment.

I arrived at the dealership on time, talked with the assistant service manager, unloaded my scooter and headed for the waiting room  - to - wait.  I didn't want to be there.   Who wants to sit in a car dealership waiting room and cry.  Not me.  Okay... I didn't sob - or get hysterical or anything, but there were tears and I wondered if I'd ever be able to go anywhere - do anything - without crying.  Ever.

Home to pick up Michael and then across the street for a pizza and a salad - quick - easy - and most of all ----- done.

I was just about ready to lie down on the couch and take a 15 minute snooze, when Scott called.  He had picked up Greg's boat from his house and wanted to stop for 10 minutes on his way home since he was so close.  I was so happy to hear from him - and to have the chance to see him - hug him - tell him I love him.

We talked some - and I cried. *sigh*  I'm so tired of crying, but it comes and goes and it's just the way it is.  I don't want my kids to avoid me because I'm sad.  I don't want to be a weight they have to  carry.

Scott has been incredibly busy - he's working very hard to help Amy disassemble the physical mess that Greg left.  There were trucks, a trailer, a boat, a car, a motorcycle and a garage that's more of a storage building than it is an actual garage.   I can't imagine how hard it must be for him to be there and to go through Greg's things,  to see how run-down and neglected everything is that he owned.   I wish I had his courage.

I'm grateful that Scott is there for Amy and Greg's sons.  Greg's kids need Scott's kindness and compassion - and presence.  They need to see love in action - and Scott is the love they need.

To see Scott - to hug him - and be hugged by him - was something I needed even more than I knew.  He mentioned the possibility of lunch tomorrow if I wouldn't mind traveling to where he lives (about 40 minutes away).  I don't mind.  Promise.

Maybe I'll sleep a little better tonight. 

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